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the infinite nature of man

15 Nov

There are many anatomical features that distinctly separate men and women.  Most of us learned about them in horrifying detail far before we could discuss the subject matter with a straight face.  In my experience, the girls usually came away horribly embarassed and disgusted while us boys tapped into what appeared to be a comic gold mine and tried not to burst into laughter.  Little did we know that we would spend the next     10-15 years confused about these topics and pursuing them for reasons we didn’t entirely understand.  The joke was on us.

There is however a more ambiguous feature between the sexes that is rarely spoken of and is often shunned by modern society.  Its the place inherently inside all males that turns us into men.  To be clear, I’m not talking about puberty.  Puberty can be explained by science and is rational.  Much more difficult to explain is the incessant scratching, constant urge to urinate outside at every opportunity, and the obsession with cars that go faster than we would ever be able to legally operate on the roadways (or safely control, really).   I’m talking about the little voice inside the heads of all men that suggest we throw scoial norms to the wind and say “We’re going streaking!”  It cannot be reasoned with and is completely irrational but has in many ways sculpted how men live their lives. 

Exhibit A - Frank the Tank

John Lennon once wrote, “life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”  And for most people that dose of life often comes with the anticipated arrival of a new baby.  Appropriately, this line from Mr. Yoko Ono was written for his first son Sean.  Ironic?  Hardly.  As this dramatic change approaches it’s easy for men to stare into the future with uncertainty and be a little afraid.  Ok, terrified.  Especially the first time around when we don’t know what to expect!  Will the frivolous and carefree lifestyle we have come to love be lost forever?  Will the Fonz Factor be shattered by the imminent mini van?  Will my manhood be challenged by floral diaper bags?  I think these are all legitimate concerns.  But know that there are hundreds, no thousands of men lying awake at night with the same thoughts racing through their heads.  And you should take comfort in the fact that you can prepare for and be a great father and yet maintain the integrity of what it means to be a man. 

Fonz Factor - Does it get any cooler than this?!

The goal of Manfather is to make those approaching dad-hood aware that there are pregnancy and parenting resources available for men.  The entire market is not tailored only for women….the lion’s share of it may be but that’s all the more reason for us dudes to stick together, right?  We still have options and I plan on being the one to deliver them.  Check in regulalry for tips of great man friendly products, hilarious accounts of baby wrangling and hopefully some very valuable insight from other dads out there. 

Afterall, just because you might be a father soon doesn’t mean you can’t keep being a man.  Good luck!

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